When I was 25 years old, I decided that I wanted to build a house and everything in it. Design had always been an important aspect of how I viewed the world, and I wanted to live in a place that felt inspiring and graceful to me. I also wanted to make sure that I would never have to keep a job I hated because I had a mortgage to pay. For me, the vision was crystal clear: beautiful, sunny home, low or no mortgage.
I’m writing this from my sunny, open living room looking out over the skyline of mountaintops ringing the field around my home. The mortgage is minimal.
The process of getting from there to here has been grueling, hilarious, growthful, exciting and exhausting. To some of the people around me, moving to New York so I could stay in Vermont seemed crazy; to others, graduating from Amherst College and going to work in wealthy people’s households seemed crazy; to others, taking a 90% pay cut to move back to VT after doing so well in New York seemed crazy. While the path appeared to be winding, I was so completely focused on where I was going that all I saw was the next logical step to get me where I wanted to be. To get me exactly where I am.
I think that if you feel driven to make your way towards destinations for which there are superhighways, you are very lucky. For some of us, there are no road signs, no clear directions, no tracks of any kind to follow. As someone who had to imagine my own destinations and then find my own way there, I learned to tune into my internal compass, use the resources I have creatively, strategize cleverly, problem solve tirelessly, and hold on tenaciously to my final goal.
When I realized that I could use the skills I had banked over my lifetime to help other people get to their unique destinations, I went back to school to become certified as a Personal Coach at NYU. I find that everything I have learned up through the current moment feeds into this work: deep analysis and logical planning, the ability to find narrative and unwind arguments, a relational and contextual understanding of human behavior, and a bold sense of adventure all inform my process as a coach.
I love this work, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to immerse myself in it. And grateful for the sunshine streaming through my windows while I do so.